If you don't already know these, you're behind the curve and if you cannot overcome them, you're wasting time thinking your emotional intent has real power
With 90% of our thoughts being the same
day to day, recreating the same feelings and behaviors over and over, we feel uncomfortable with
changes - even when what we are familiar with is exactly what we want to get
away from! Do you realize it takes more effort to hold onto negative
memories than to let them go? But I've had clients that are too uncomfortable
withOUT their anger or anxiety to let themselves get used to feeling better.
Ya gotta realize that to BE different is going to FEEL different, no way around
it! Just like getting used to new shoes, or a new car, or a new house. So the
first step toward creating change is being willing to weather the
initial discomfort of it, whether that's dropping the crutch of
a substance or of the familiarity with who you've been. Being who’ve
you’ve been has created the life you have – allow yourself to become someone
different.
The second step is to get over
thinking you're right – again, a habit that’s actually more work to hold onto
than to let go. Check this out: everybody thinks they're right, so there's
really NO SUCH THING! How many people have gone to their graves waiting
for an apology they never received because they were so stuck on their own
point of view? Fundamental rule of personal development: you can be right or you can be happy.
What makes this one tricky is that it’s often
unclear if we’ve really released a grudge or we’re just burying it. In our
conscious self-talk it’s easy to say we don’t feel wronged or victimized,
but we cannot fool our subconscious. Overcoming feeling we’re right usually
happens in three stages:
1.
Acceptance –
whatever it is, it happened, there’s no point in wishing it hadn’t.
2.
Letting go –
disconnecting from the feelings so it can be a memory without emotion.
3.
Forgiveness
– yep, for anyone else AND for yourself; that’s when you’re truly free.
If you won’t accept the initial
unfamiliarity of being out of your comfort zone, and you won’t give up
believing you’re more right than someone else, then your visualizations for a
better situation do not have the emotional energy to align with real change.
It’s like pressing the accelerator when the car is still in neutral.
If you’re one of those people always
saying, “Yeah, but…” to every new suggestion or opportunity, then which one of these
steps is your fundamental challenge – are you addicted to what’s familiar or to
being right?
Joanne
Joanne Gartner, PhD
480.370.6345
Mesa, AZ office or Skype
(c) 2018 Soul Liberations LLC
Powerful statements!!! Thank you for sharing your light <3
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